In today’s age of internet and social media, being perfect has become an obsession not just for the young generations out there but also for adults. Spending dollars after dollars just to be perfect like the Victoria Secret’s Angel or to look like a perfect model seen on Vogue cover. But is this actually perfection? I highly doubt it. If I am being honest there is no such thing as perfection. It’s just an abstract word found in the pages of books and magazines. When in reality, perfect means the exact opposite.
Over the years we are taught to be perfect in every way, be it physically or in our activities, work, or the way we dress ourselves (goes for both genders, by the way). We spend half of our life to be this “all perfect” person. Whenever we try to be ourselves, whenever we try to accept our flaws, we are instantly told or commented by people, saying that we shouldn’t be proud of our flaws and should try to cover it or get rid of it otherwise we won’t be accepted by the world. There was this saying by Bob Marley,
“Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I’m no perfect and I don’t live to be- but before you start pointing fingers make sure your hands are clean.”
This saying of his is so impactful and honestly, it couldn’t be truer. In this world, I believe individually that nobody’s perfect and if someone says or believes that he or she is perfect in every means, I would likely consider them to be foolish or would assume they are in denial or they are the fakest person. Because as humans we are prone to mess things up no matter how much we try to do it properly. It’s in our traits and we can’t help it and that’s what makes us human.
In my life I came across people who hate themselves because of the flaws they have or the way they are and on this note I remember Tyrion Lannister’s dialogue from Game of Thrones.
“Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like an armor and it can never be used to hurt you”.
He said this to Jon Snow, another character from Game of Thrones, when he was ashamed or was feeling low since (Spoiler Alert) he was a bastard in the show. And I totally agree with Tyrion Lannister because I believe if one can’t accept one’s flaws or the way he or she is, that is if one can’t love themselves exactly the way they are it’s impossible for them to love others or to love others the way they deserve to be loved. Many people can’t accept their flaws and they usually give away their whole life trying to create an illusion of being “PERFECT”. I don’t really know if I should feel sorry for them or laugh at them for being such cowards, wasting their life behind something so non-existent. If I am asked whom do, I think to be the most fake person? I would gladly reply the most “POLISHED PERFECT PERSON”. Sounds rude but it’s the actual truth.
I don’t understand why people fail to acknowledge the fact that we people are meant to have flaws and make mistakes because we aren’t a robot. We are bound to have flaws and make mistakes and we shouldn’t ever feel ashamed of that nor be afraid to accept the real us. And honestly, once we are able to accept the real us openly and proudly the world would also learn to accept the real us. But it is on us to take a step towards self-love and accept ourselves without changing and the rest will automatically follow and also learn to accept the way we are. To love others fully we need to love ourselves first. We have to start with ourselves so that we can also love others with that much compassion and passion.
Remember always, perfection isn’t what we saw growing up, on social media or vogue covers. Perfection is to be comfortable in our own body, to eat whatever we feel like without worrying about the bulges in our body, wearing sweatshirts, and going out without makeup, without having to worry about how we walk or how we talk. Perfection is being yourself, loving yourself just the way you are with all your flaws. So, accept your flaws and imperfections with a warm heart and never change yourself because someone doesn’t like you the way you are, because the right person or the person who really loves you, will accept you and love you despite your flaws, just the way you are. So never ever stop loving yourself because life is too short to care about others' opinions or what they think about you. And to me, the bravest are those who love themselves the way they are without a doubt. To me, they are the most perfect and the most transparent person in this world. And never forget, when all the details fit in perfectly, something is probably wrong with the story. And I can’t help but finish it without saying,
"BE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT"
Wordsmith: Tasfia Nausheen
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